crosscluster: handle lww condition failures

[jeffswenson]

This change aims to correct the SQL writer's LWW semantics, enabling the
retirement of the KV writer. If the SQL writer observes the condition
failed error's introduced by #143100, it will drop the row as a LWW
loss. This closes a LWW bug where an old replicated write can overwrite
a recent local tombstone.

The first two commits in this PR are from:

• kv: remove ShouldWinOriginTimestampTie option fromcput #143096
• kv: use origin timestamp to validate lww semantics #143100

Release note: none
Epic: CRDB-48647

[cockroach-teamcity]

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[jeffswenson]

This PR contains the KV changes required for https://docs.google.com/document/d/1rdt5IhmPPkTxnExfuDRDtnXN4OFca78bIGKwO4SRK5w/edit?usp=sharing. Once this merges, the only remaining LWW bugs in the SQL writer will be:

1. The delete-delete race case that requires an explicit cput to update the tombstone.
2. Tie handling. Which is also slightly wrong in the KV writer.

[msbutler]

@jeffswenson one annoying nit: in general, the convention is to break up 1 large commit that spans multiple packages into smaller, package scoped commits, especially if the commit has reviewers from several teams. Batching multiple commits in one PR is totally fine.

[jeffswenson]

@jeffswenson one annoying nit: in general, the convention is to break up 1 large commit that spans multiple packages into smaller, package scoped commits, especially if the commit has reviewers from several teams. Batching multiple commits in one PR is totally fine.

Fair point. I'll start breaking this up into multiple PRs. Here's a small PR that removes the tie break option #143096.

[jeffswenson]

I split this change up into three stacked PRs.

[michae2]

3rd commit LGTM!

[stevendanna]

🎉

[jeffswenson]

Thanks for the reviews!

bors r+

[craig]

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