feat(linter): update useImportExtensions to suggest actual extensions

[arendjr]

Summary

Fixes #5328.

useImportExtensions has been updated to suggest actual file extensions instead of guesses based on hueristics. This is based on the dependency graph.

As part of this, the suggestedExtensions option has been removed. A simpler, new option called forceJsExtensions has been introduced for those who use tsc's "module": "node16" setting.

The rule also no longer reports diagnostics to add an extension when the path doesn't exist at all, with or without extension.

cc @drdaemos

Test Plan

Tests updated.

[codspeed-hq]

CodSpeed Performance Report

Merging #5332 will not alter performance

_{Comparing arendjr:update-use-import-extensions (322270d) with main (6de8a32)}

Summary

✅ 95 untouched benchmarks